For the last three weeks we have been working on the Franklin makeover. Benjamin Franklin decided to build his virtue by making note where he fell short on 13 virtues. This Franklin makeover is a twist on that. Rather than focusing on where I fall short. I focus on how I embody one virtue each week. I also look for examples of that virtue in other people. The purpose of this is the more I see it in myself and others the more I will embody that virtue.
The first week I focused on courage and the second week I focused on kindness. It was amazing the amount of courage and kindness I witness during those two weeks. You don’t notice these things that are all around you until you actively look for them. Like when you get a new car. You never notice that car on the road. After you buy that car all of a sudden you see that car everywhere you go.
This week I am focused on decisiveness. I have a lot of difficulty with making decisions. I avoid it like the plague. If I must choose between two things, I am fine. Give me a list of things to choose from and I am done for. I tend to over think things, and in the end, I make an impulsive decision. From a distance it looks like my decision was profound. In reality, I make decisions out of frustration. I get frustrated and just pick whatever is in front of me at the time. This is not great. Sometimes it is a relief because trying to make decisions, causes a lot of anxiety for me. I become paralyzed and basically the decision makes itself.
Sometimes being indecisive is not a problem. For instance, going shopping. I must say I hate shopping there is too much to choose from. I avoid shopping at all costs. My husband on the other hand loves to shop. More specifically he loves to shop for me. I get frustrated because I cannot choose the right pair of jeans. Being indecisive in this case is great. When I shop with my husband, I don’t have to choose. If the jeans look good on me, I am good to go. If it fits it goes in the keep pile. The easiest decision I ever make.
On the flipside being indecisive about major decisions can be a disaster. For instant, the first time I decided to go into business for myself. I made the worst error in judgement. It was a costly decision. To this day it still haunts me. But my indecisiveness did not end there. I made many other impulsive decisions since then. But that ends now.
Week 17 of the Master Key Experience is a game changer for me. I would always say we have control over ourselves. I was not practicing what I preached. Week 17 made me fully realize knowledge does not apply itself. I am in control. I am in control of my thoughts and my actions. I get to decide!